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All right ch’all, here’s the my review of the Chicago BC, June 29-July 1
The Instructors
Sinn was dynamic, charismatic, and temperamental, as expected. He made it clear right up front that this was a boot camp, and he was going to push us like a drill sergeant. He had zero interest in debating female behavior with us. And he was right to cut off those of us who offered different perspectives -- after all, we were paying him for his expertise, so the best thing to do was to shut up, let go of our preconceived notions, and absorb what he had to teach us. In reward, he inundated us with an insane amount of knowledge. Sinn was a great leader, both in the seminar and in the field - there’s no question that this guy is the real deal.
Future was insanely great. This guy ranks among the best public speakers I’ve ever seen, and his seminar talks were just on fire. He was really able to keep things moving and interesting, while giving us a ton of information. He’s super funny and energetic and his gaming style involves a lot of humor. This was great because in seminar he covered the use of humor (which I use a lot, too) and gave us some key insights. These are micro-level things you can do to use humor without looking like a dancing monkey/clown. Furthermore, Future made it clear that he was an angry guy, but that anger was toxic when dealing with women. He offered TONS of insight on how to adjust and work with this anger, suppressing it or channeling it in more useful directions. Again, these insights were tremendously powerful, at least to me.
El Topo was hilarious and dark at the same time, a combination that I always appreciate. Sinn and Future lead the seminar, but El Topo offered a lot of interesting insights and advice. He’s also a super-smart cat who uses his love of literature, writing, and dark humor in his game.
Dahunter was a super cool cat. He was in and out during seminar, but I had a chance to watch him in the field and his quiet, laid-back style worked really well. This is different from my style, but it was cool as shit to watch someone pull it off so effortlessly. He also pulled me aside a couple of times in the field and gave me some great ideas about things you can say and do early on to make it clear to girls that you’re looking for a one-night stand. He peacocks like crazy in the field, and sported leather pants and sunglasses the second night, which got him tons of attention from the SHBs.
The combination of these four guys was fantastic -- they all had something to offer, but they had totally different styles, approaches, and expertise. It was clear that they all enjoyed each other’s company, which made for great chemistry in seminar and in the field. They were cool, fun, encouraging, but always ready to point out our flaws -- exactly the sort of no-holds-barred advice I wanted. Prior to BC, I never met anyone (that I know of, anyway) who would call themselves a PUA. Were these guys gonna be cheesy, creepy, or otherwise weird? Not at all. These are cool guys who are enjoying life outside the matrix. Moreover, they know what they’re talking about. This stuff definitely works and they can teach it to you. The rest, of course, is up to you.
The Seminar
Most of us had done a lot of reading prior to the seminar, so I was glad that the instructors didn’t spend the time going, “This is A1, this is A2.” In fact, they mostly ignored that blueprint, while still offering the same steps -- attraction, transition, comfort, seduction, etc. The reason for this, Sinn said, was that the process is never linear, and the steps often overlap in the field. The instructors gave us a thousand helpful tips and hints, often little things that help calibrate game at the micro level. They were awesome about helping us put together stories from our own lives, and then embedding them with DHV spikes. This was cool, because they continually pushed us to use real material that comes across naturally. I wrote about a jillion pages of notes, and I know I’ll be referring to them for years to come.
When I signed up, I was more interested in the field portion than the seminar, but it turned out the seminar was probably more helpful due to all the tips and insights. We did some practicing in the seminar, but a lot of it was absorbing as much info as possible. There’s no way you could get this sort of insight from a book or two -- the instructors have read everything and field tested it all. So they pulled tons of material from outside sources and showed us how to incorporate it into our game. Thus, this was far more than a MM seminar -- this was teaching us all aspects from the game, drawing from every useful source out there. They also told us what was bullshit -- PUA product or ideas that don’t work.
There was also a lot of emphasis on inner game and furthering yourself not just as a pua, but as a man and a person. As with your dealings with women, you should strive for excellence and getting what you want in all aspects of life, and this point was continually hammered home by the instructors. The goal is not to become a player (although that is one possibility), but a whole, well-rounded man who designs his life as he sees fit, apologies be damned. By the third day of seminar, everyone was pretty tired (you’ll see why in a minute), but we still got a ton of solid info, including good material on comfort and identity. The only thing I wish we had time for was something on day game, which wasn’t really covered. I realize that day game is something Sinn devotes entire seminars to, so I knew we weren’t going to get too much into it, but given that Sinn is the world’s foremost day game expert, I would have loved to have him talk about it for 15 minutes or so. (Sinn, please hold a day game seminar in Chicago soon!)
Finally, it was really cool to meet the other 11 members of the class. Again, I had no idea what to expect, but everyone turned out to be super cool, friendly, nice, and normal. Everyone was at a different level of game, but we were all there for the exact same reason -- we wanted to do better with women, and we had the balls to do something about it. I met a bunch great people and I know this marks the beginning of some true friendships.
The Field
This is the main reason I signed up for boot camp -- I wanted some real-world advice right in the setting where the game takes place. This sort of feedback and practice is worth the price of admission alone -- it will change and make your game better than you can ever imagine. The first night, we were all assigned openers, transitions, and routines. All we were supposed to do was open and start building attraction. After that, you could either eject or wing it. Although I’ve spent years approaching women in various ways, this was the first time I had done something like this and I was pretty nervous. Not that there was much time, because we pretty much showed and were told to go open certain set.
For the most part, the openers worked! I got blown out or blown off a couple of times, but not many and it was never a big deal. Cool! That gives you a certain level of confidence right there, and the routines became increasingly natural with practice. I don’t have much AA with HB7s or thereabouts, but HB10s make me nervous as hell. So, I spent a lot of time approaching the hottest girls I could find, and it went really well. I basically spent a lot of time opening mixed groups and getting a cool vibe going with the guys. This allowed me to get more in with the girls in the set, and when I would run into these groups later, it was like we were old friends. This gave me a lot of social proofing, and made it a lot easier to open new sets. I probably opened about a dozen sets the first night.
At one point, I had three of the hottest girls in the room taking pictures with me. Hell yeah!!!! My most successful opener was a solo HB8 (according to my subjective standards; some might rank her lower or higher) at the bar, who I didn’t even really use any routines on -- okay, I did open her with my canned opener, but after that I just went with it, trying to remember what I had learned, while throwing the linear model out the window. When you’re just in the moment and not thinking about gaming and patterns and routines -- while still incorporating this material naturally -- you have the most success. You’re not “gaming” at that point, you’re just being you and using the knowledge you have acquired. That’s the place I hope to be at some day. I number-closed HB8, so that was cool. Sinn told me EXACTLY what to do next, including the texting her that night -- which I did and got a great response. That sort of feedback is invaluable. Every person in the seminar, including the instructors, hated the first-night venue. This is because the music was so loud you literally could not hear anything.
Thus, all we were able so observe from the instructor’s pickups were body language and that sort of thing. That aside, I didn’t mind the venue -- the noise and chaos made it a lot easier to approach because you just sort of ended up a part of the madness. Not so conducive for gaming, but a good way to approach without anxiety and build a network that you can tap into at later points -- at least for those of us who live in Chicago. Afterwards, we did a debriefing. My only critique was doing the debriefing right in front of the club, in front of tons of people walking in and out, with the instructors and students still talking in their loud “club” voices. Some people had to overhear what was being said, and I think doing the debriefing in a slightly more secluded location (even across the street) would have been a better idea. In part, yeah, it’s just embarrassing, but also doing it so publicly just makes it harder to keep the Game underground. The motto should be: Don’t talk about Fight Club in front of the night club! That said, the feedback was super helpful -- invaluable insights that were right on the money. The instructors have a way of pinpointing exactly what you were doing wrong and then telling you how to correct it.
The second night was a far better venue for gaming, and everyone had already practiced from the night before. Moreover, we were armed with material from the seminar -- negs, more routines, stories, etc. Future pushed me right into a set that flew wide open. There were four girls, 3 of them HB<7s (if they’re less than 7, I won’t rate them) and the target, an HB9 (again, my subjective rating system). I knew to pay attention to the obstacles and neg HB9. I ran a bunch of routines on them and they all worked really well and got everyone’s attention. I was cocky, playful, and confident and HB9 was eating it up, but after about 15 minutes, I started losing her -- she was looking around the room and that sort of thing. I said, “Hey, am I boring you? I can leave if you want.” Bam! She was locked right back into the set. I started paying even more attention to the obstacles and negging HB9 harder. All the time, I showed no interest, but I was still super playful and fun. At one point, I told HB9 that we would “make great friends.” Her jaw almost hit the floor!
Dahunter came over and whispered to me that I needed to isolate HB9. Almost immediately, we found a table and relocated. I cozied up next to HB9 with two obstacles across from us. Sinn comes in and says, “Jenny sent you a text message,” and shows me his Blackberry with a message telling me to kino escalate HB9. It’s SO fucking awesome to get that sort of feedback right there in set! (Plus it’s even more social proofing -- I have cool friends and text messages from girls, a jealousy plotline. Nice.) So, I started kino escalation and making HB9 qualify herself, while still making sure not to ignore her friends, who I was giving AFC questions to (where do you work?, etc.). HB9 was totally qualifying herself and offered her number without me asking for it. At one point her friends got up to get drinks, so I got real close to her and told her that she was interesting and asked what she had to offer besides her looks. In that moment, she was mine. She apologized for being a bitch when we first met (!) and starts telling me how attractive and confident I am, how most guys are wussies, and all these reasons why we would get along.
This was my signal to get SUPER alpha with her, which I did. The more alpha I got, the more she was into me. Fucking A! I tried to kiss her, but she told me that she didn’t pda on the “first date.” (Those were her words, so she was already reframing this as a date -- should I have reframed this?) I did a takeaway, pulling back from her and saying that I would never consider dating a girl who could not be affectionate. She immediately qualified herself by saying that she was super affectionate once she got to know a guy blah blah blah. HB9s friends were getting hit on left and right, with guys coming up to the table and saying shit like, “Hi, I’m Bill. What’s your name?” HB9 and I were cracking up and laughing at these AFCs. At one point HB9 asked me if I was a player (shit test), and I’m like, “No, those dorks over there are players,” referring to the AFCs hitting on her friends. At some point, HB9 and her friends decided to leave and go to a house party out in the suburbs. They asked me to come with them several times, but I said no (this was still my first set of the night and I wanted to keep practicing). So, I kept my alpha frame and told her exactly what was going to happen: She was going to go out with her friends and not talk to any other guys, I was going to stay here with my friends, here’s when I’m going to call you, I’m going to get you a cab, put down that drink right now and let’s go. She freaking LOVED it, and so did I! I texted her later and got a great response. In total, I was in that first set for about 2 hours! I did make several mistakes, but I was able to pull back, reframe, and recalibrate to the point where it all worked like magic.
So it was back to the bar, where I tried to open some more sets. A few of them hooked for a while, some of them didn’t, but nothing too exciting. It was 1:30, so we did another debriefing (again, right in front of the club -- boo!!!). Several of us decided to go to Rush Street, so we hit a couple of clubs there, opening sets left and right and gaming everyone we could. I was really impressed by everyone’s willingness to step in and open sets without a lot of hemming and hawing about approach anxiety. This made it a lot easier for all of us to approach, I think. Fuck it, go in and see what happens. If you get blown out, move and on try another one. I wish all these guys lived in Chicago -- we’d be unstoppable by this time next year! By 3:00 a.m. it was only me and a cool guy from Philly who I’ll call Herbert, gaming all the way until sunrise. We didn’t have much luck, but we did make out with some crazy married cougar types, and had a fucking great time, bonding in the brotherhood that is pua. I got home at 6:30 in the morning, exhausted, but knowing that I had a night I will never forget.
Conclusion
Overall, the boot camp was money well spent. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I got a lot out of it, including tons of tips and ways to improve my game. I met some really cool people, learned a lot, and had a blast in the field. It was great to get feedback on where my game was right now and the best ways to further calibrate. Was it life-changing? I don’t know yet, it’s too early to tell. But I feel a million times more confident in what I’m doing, and that’s a huge first step. I certainly don't feel like I flushed two grand down the drain, which is a relief -- like I said, I really didn’t know what to expect. I would love to take a day game seminar from Sinn at some point, as the girls I like usually aren’t found in clubs. For now, it’s practice practice, practice -- and dates with HB8 and HB9. Sinn, Future, El Topo, Dahunter, and all the guys in the class, thanks for everything. Chicago BC fucking ruled!!!
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