Does this really work?

Is there a guy in your life who does better with women than anyone else you have ever met. It is possible to be literally ten times that good. You must be open-minded, willing to study and practice, and willing to set aside your ego and examine yourself critically – but amazing results is possible – and inevitable – given enough practice. The first time most people see Mystery or top Mystery Method instructors interacting with women, the most common reaction is disbelief that their results were even possible. Then they learn that they can do it too after all, all of the top Mystery Method instructors were once students!

What if I'm ugly? What if I'm short? What if I'm a virgin? What if I dress like a dork?

Let’s be honest here. Being attractive helps. And we bring experts to each seminar who gives personalized tips to significantly improve your looks. However, being attractive is neither a necessary nor a sufficient condition to gain attraction from desirable women. Unattractive men (including some Mystery Method instructors) gain amazing results every day because they know what they are doing. Attractive men may have it a little bit easier, but being attractive without understanding women or social dynamics will get you nowhere.

Do I really have to practice this, isn't there a magic bullet?

Although an expert venusian artist can display abilities that may at times seem supernatural, this is a skill set that requires practice. The Mystery Method program does not end after the weekend seminar or bootcamp. We stick through the Mystery Lounge which helps reinforce your learning. With practice, you should notice remarkable improvements within 6 weeks and life-changing results within 6 months. But there is no magic bullet – anyone who pretends that one book or one CD alone will do it is trying to steal your money.

I don't want to be some player. I just want a girlfriend.

The Mystery Method structure applies to all courtships – from a one-night stand to a marriage. Mystery Method instructors are currently involved in a variety of romantic situations, ranging from traditional, exclusive relationships to our resident "getting laid like a rock star" instructor. We aim to give you choice and control over your romantic situations – so you can be the one choosing who and what you want.

I don't want to be a fake; I just want to be myself. Girls should like me for who I am.

It is a proven fact that social interactions follow clearly observable and understandable principles. Wouldn’t it be useful to know what they are? It is a proven fact that women have certain hard-wired attraction switches, and also automatic avoidance mechanisms, for certain types of behavior. Wouldn’t it be useful to know how that works? When you try something new, it feels unfamiliar at first. It’s just like that first day of school. But the skill set of a venusian artist is the way to realize confidence and consistent results in your social interactions. You will learn to convey your identity in a genuine and attractive way – but you must be willing to try new things and set aside old, outdated beliefs. We specifically advocate NOT lying to or deceiving women – not only is it unnecessary (we teach you how to get what you want, even threesomes or multiple women, by being a man about it and establishing a strong frame rather than lying and deceiving) but it is also beneath us. We can teach you how to get what you want and feel good about yourself at the same time.

I want to seduce [my neighbor / someone who works in my building / a friend from my social circle / my friend's ex-girlfriend].

If you don’t meet enough people – if you are not out practicing your game – it is natural to develop a crush on someone whom you interact with from day to day. But if you have not practiced your game, then your chances of actually getting this girl are probably low. Knowing this, why – when there are millions of women available to practice on – why would you use her as a "practice dummy" and create a potentially embarrassing situation with someone who is already somehow connected to your life? Focus on your game, not on unhealthy preoccupations with other people.

There's this one girl . . .

The ability to attract women requires practice. If done properly, attraction can be generated within 5 to 15 minutes – this can be tested. If you have been pining over one woman for the past few days, weeks, months or years, just forget her for now. Go out and practice your game, then perhaps re-visit this girl when you are getting consistent results. It is always easier to attract a new girl than it is to do damage control with one that has gone stale. And it's unhealthy to become fixated on one girl. This is a poverty mentality that will cause subtle changes in your behavior and make you less attractive. Let it go. She'll be much more attracted to you when she sees that you have the kind of personality and value that gives you other options.

What will I learn if I take your program? What sorts of programs do you offer?

For more about the programs we offer, click here.

What are the locations for your programs?

Mystery has conducted live programs in major cities all over North America and Europe. Recent cities include New York, Los Angeles, Las Vegas, Dallas, Washington D.C., and Chicago. Locations are based on demand, so be sure to contact us with any requests.

What preparations should I make for lodging and expenses when I attend a live program?

Contact our staff for lodging information related to the program that you plan to attend. It is recommended to bring extra money for food, transportation, and cover charges for workshop venues. (Although we usually find free venues for our in-field workshops, it is possible that the student may have to pay a 10 or 20 dollar cover charge to enter the venue.) The opportunity to go clothes shopping often arises during the weekend. Students may wish to bring shopping money.

What sort of clothes should I bring for my In-Field Workshop?

Students are encouraged to bring at least one outfit that includes dressy pants, shirts, and shoes such as are required for entry to many clubs and bars.

Is it possible to attend only part of a program and receive a discount on pricing?

We do not offer the option to attend only part of a Seminar or Workshop in return for a discount. Although it IS possible to sign up for the Seminar and Workshop as separate programs, note that Seminar attendance is a pre-requisite to the Workshop.

How do results improve after attending a live program?

Here are typical results from taking a workshop: Over the course of the weekend, beginners will immediately go from being unable to open a set, to being able to hold a set for 10 or 20 minutes and create attraction. Intermediate students will be able to isolate, build comfort, and get solid phone numbers. Advanced students will receive nuance instruction to help them overcome their sticking points – and have been known to do same-night extractions! Results may vary. Skills tend to continue improving with practice at an accelerated rate after live programs. More about our live programs.

How should I prepare for an In-Field Workshop?

Students receive personal attention relevant to their skill set when they take the program. If you want to get your game up before taking a workshop, we suggest getting as much in-field experience as you can. Practice talking to girls and various types of groups. Be a talkative, social guy. (It may be useful to choose a standard opener that you can practice with). The official Mystery Newbie Drill is: Go out 4 hours per night, 4 nights per week, and approach 1 set every 20 minutes. That’s 3 per hour, 12 per night, and 48 per week: 200 per month. Don’t drink, and go out alone if you have to.

How do I get access to The Lounge?

In order to provide a high-quality environment for discussion and development of field-tested skills, tactics, and techniques, The Lounge is restricted to current and former students of the Mystery Method and selected other high-quality programs. If you believe that you qualify, please click here. There is no other way to gain membership to The Lounge at this time. If you are looking for general information about Mystery Method programs or how to enhance your social, dating, pickup, and relationship skills, please click here.

I've been accepted into a Mystery Method program; how do I pay?

We currently accept several forms of payment:

Credit Cards or PayPal: You can use Paypal to send money via credit card even if you don’t have a Paypal account. You are not charged any fees for signing up for paypal or paying online with your credit card. Click Here to go to PayPal. Cash: Should be used in-person only. We are not responsible for cash sent in the mail or by Fedex, UPS, etc. You may do so, but at your own risk. Please contact us for our mailing address. Certified Check: Certified checks are accepted. Please contact us for our mailing address. Personal Check: Personal checks are accepted only if received 4 weeks prior to the beginning of the program. Personal checks are not accepted as deposits due to the possibility of insufficient funds. Contact us for our mailing address.

For any payment, it is very important to include with your payment the following information:

Your first and last name Your cell phone number Your primary email address The dates and location of your program The type of program (phone consultation, seminar, seminar and workshop, etc.)

If you are paying by paypal or by credit card. Please put this information in the 'notes' or 'comments' field.

For cash or check, include the previous information in the envelope along with your check.

Please contact us with any additional questions you might have about payment.

Is my deposit refundable? Can I change programs?

We keep the Mystery Method programs very small to allow for intense student-instructor interaction. As a result, when we accept a student, we turn other men away from your spot, and we engage our instructors and prepare for them to travel to bootcamps based on the number and quality of students for that program. Consequently, students who cancel their program create a significant financial loss for us and therefore deposits and program fees are not refundable. For the same reason, we do not guarantee the right to change programs, although we will accommodate you if we can. Generally, you will have better luck if you want to change to an earlier program than if you want to delay your program. Nevertheless, this is up to our discretion and our decision is final.

Do you offer a money-back guarantee?

If you’re not satisfied, we give you your money back. Mystery Method is the only program of its kind that we know of that offers such a guarantee. It’s that simple. If you attend a program in its entirety and feel that the program wasn’t worth what you paid, all you have to do is let us know on the final day of the seminar or workshop (Sundays, except for 1-1 or specialty programs), and we’ll refund you ALL of your money.

Am I too young or too old? What if I don't like clubs?

We've had students as young as 17 and as old as 56, and they have enjoyed the same successes that have improved our other students' lives. There's nothing age-specific about the Mystery Method (but you should have appropriate ID for the workshop). That being said, you might want to consider that most of the practical training (the workshop) takes place in bars, clubs, and lounges, where most people are in their 20s and 30s. This is because these locations are a reliable source of extremely attractive women. And younger and older men have been consistently successful using the Mystery Method in these locations. The Mystery Method is designed for 9s and 10s - so if we did all our practical training in, say, bookstores and coffee shops, we would be limited by the number of beautiful women on which students could practice. You should also make a distinction between where you will practice the Mystery Method during the bootcamp (clubs, bars, lounges) and where you will ultimately use the Mystery Method (your preference). Many former students have used what they learned at the Mystery Method programs to meet and attract beautiful women in environments where they feel most comfortable (the differences in approach between different venues are small, and we cover these in the seminar). When you're going out to meet women for yourself instead of at a bootcamp, you only need 1 beautiful woman, not 100. So feel free to learn the Method and then apply it anywhere!

I'd like to be a Mystery Method Approach Coach. What do I need to do?

Becoming a Mystery Method Approach Coach is extremely selective. Approach Coaches must not only be consistently successful with beautiful women, but also must develop the skills, insight, and experience to teach the Mystery Method to others. In our experience, it is much easier to find men who are successful with women using MM - as most people fall into this category after taking a bootcamp - than it is to find men who are able to teach others to be successful in a very short amount of time and under intense pressure. Furthermore, Approach Coaches are skilled in helping students dramatically improve their success with women regardless of students' age, lifestyle, or skill level, as a typical bootcamp will include both people new to Mystery Method and those who are already highly successful. To be accepted as an Approach Coach, you must also live a successful and powerful lifestyle, and "fit" with Mystery Method's core values. We value teamwork, honesty, and service to clients above most competing considerations.

Both men and women can be qualified to become Approach Coaches. We currently have both male and female instructors.

 

We do not train people to become Approach Coaches. You must already exceed our requirements before being considered. We have extremely high standards for the service that we provide to students (and a customer-centered money back guarantee to back it up) so there is no room for "on the job training" or for anything other than the highest quality from day 1. Nor do we offer discounted seminars or other products for those aiming to become an Approach Coach. Most people simply do not have the dedication and perseverance necessary to become an Approach Coach, and, as such, we prefer to wait until candidates have proven that they are "ready" before considering them. While there is extensive ongoing training for Approach Coaches, this is designed for those who have already met our criteria and joined us, and serves to help Approach Coaches reach the higher levels of Instructor and Master Instructor.

 

While it is not a requirement, all Mystery Method Approach Coaches are former students of at least one bootcamp. Generally, it takes between a few months and a couple of years after internalizing the strategies and techniques of the Mystery Method before one is qualified to teach it to others. While it is theoretically possible for someone to achieve the level of mastery necessary to become a Mystery Method Approach Coach without ever having met a current instructor, we have not yet found a successful candidate who has not taken a Mystery Method program.

 

All Mystery Method Approach Coaches have signed a comprehensive instructor agreement that, among other things, includes a non-compete clause. This instructor agreement is non-negotiable.